Temple
The sacred base
The DetailS
This ritual requires you to make time and space for the subtle energies to be felt so allow at least 60mins for your Temple.
You can use a finger, wand, carrot, butt plug or slim dildo for this ritual, listen to your body when deciding, nothing is to be forced here.
Create a beautiful temple space by warming up a room, lighting candles, creating an altar and having a comfortable space for you to lie down, you might want to also have a blanket to cover yourself afterwards.
Make sure you have some coconut oil (or other lubricant) and some tissues.
Showering or bathing your body prior to the ritual is a beautiful practice of anointing and worship of your body temple before you begin.
Once you have created a space and have your ritual tools (wand, oil, tissues) play the audio introduction.
After the introduction you will be invited to journey on your own with a music playlist.
There are two different playlists to choose from;
Sacred Base- A beautiful and expansive journey of exploration.
Gentle - This playlist is specifically for when you are in a state of vulnerability, fragility or feeling tender or emotional. Use this playlist when you want to hide from the world. This is our doorway to being loved all the way through, to be penetrated when we most want to avoid life.
It is important after the ritual to allow space to rest and integrate and to follow your body’s guidance around when it is complete.
Landing Temple
Anal de-armouring
The DetailS
Anal De-armouring is a partnered ritual practice using a finger to enter the anus with full presence and love. The key note of this practice is to be present to any energy, emotion or sensations that arise.
De-armouring is not a practice where we ‘do’ something but more an invitation to listen, the body will do the rest. There are no techniques or instructions to follow- as the giver you are purely listening to the body, the receiver and your own intuition.
Consciously bringing our love into the body through this practice is a powerful path for releasing shame, awakening pleasure and clearing blocked energies. This is not a sexual practice although arousal can arise.
It is a deeply intimate and connective practice between any two people. Anal de-armouring cultivates trust and safety as we are asked to surrender to the holding of another person as we open our core through the base.
The Details
Allow at least one hour and a half hours for each ritual, this includes integration time.
Decide on the order of the ritual (who is giving/receiving first).
For this practice the index or middle finger is usually used. Make sure the nails are short and smooth.
It is a gift if the person giving also sets up the space for the ritual and creates a temple for the receiver to enter. The holding begins here.
Create a sacred space; light candles, ensure you have a bed or mattress and the room is warm.
You will need; coconut oil, a towel to lie down on, a sarong or blanket to cover the body, tissues/ baby wipes, hand sanitiser and gloves (optional).
To begin; sit facing each other holding hands and share the following;
Intentions for the ritual (they will be different as giver/receiver)
Any fears or concerns you hold
The giver invites the receiver to lie down on their front (naked) and starts to gently massage the body with a relaxed touch and some coconut oil. The purpose of this touch is to let the body know it is safe and held.
Include all areas (head to toes) and do not forget the buttocks. Allow around 15mins for the back of the body. Invite the receiver to turn over and commence touch to the front of the body (15mins).
Sitting between the legs of your receiver begin to massage the genitals. It is perfectly fine for arousal to arise but your focus remains on the original intentions for the journey (not sexuality).
Moving now to the base spent some time massaging the buttocks, around the upper thighs, moving to the perineum and anal entrance.
Do not enter the body until consent is invited. As a giver you want to notice if the body is ready and relaxed, trust your intuition and if more time is needed honour this. It is always better to allow more time than to penetrate when the body is not ready.
When you feel the body is ready ask the receiver if it is ok for you to enter, make sure you have adequate coconut oil on your finger and hover outside the entrance. Connect with your heart here, feel your love for this person and let this energy travel down into your finger.
Enter very slowly, staying connected to your receiver, pausing if they are moving through emotions or energy. Continuing to enter until you are all the way inside the anal canal. Breathe.
With your other hand you might want to also gently massage the abdominal area and heart centre.
Let yourself be guided by the receiver’s reaction, follow their body. You might want to gently stroke your finger along the anal canal lining or if the male is a receiver at the prostate (a walnut shaped gland).
Your intention as giver is key to this process, stay connected to your heart and trust your own body to respond to the receiver.
Checking in at times with the receiver is important
“Is this touch ok?” “Is there anything else you would like right now?”
Once the ritual feels complete, let the receiver know you are going to exit and SLOWLY take your finger out, covering the entrance of the anus with your other hand once you have existed.
Cover the receiver with a blanket or sarong and leave them to rest and integrate. Wash/ sanitise your hands.
Complete with a check in and sharing
“How was that experience for you both?”
Note To Receiver
This is your ritual and you are invited to let go into YOURSELF fully. Allow emotions, energies or sensations to arise.
Breathe Breathe Breathe!
Breath is a very important aspect of this ritual, if you are feeling intensity -breathe. Communicate with your giver; if there is something you like ask for it. If you feel pain ask them to pause and breathe at that spot. Sounding also helps the energies move through the body.
Some people have very powerful experiences during this practice; it is not uncommon for rage to arise or deep grief. Be with whatever is wanting to move and if you cannot feel anything this is ok- stay connected to your breathe. Trust your body.
Anal Lovemaking
Anal lovemaking is one of the most sacred and intimate rituals between two bodies.
The base is the anchor point for the shushumna- a channel of energy flowing in the core of the spine and extending from the base to the eyebrow centre.
Anal Penetration builds energy through the shushumna channel which in turn activates our chakra system (energy centres linked to areas of our physical body) and awakens life force throughout the whole body.
Our awareness of these systems and the energy as it moves through the body amplifies the power of this channel. Where attention goes energy flows.
The pure density of feeling through anal penetration can make it difficult to lift our awareness of sensation out of the base centre and thus we can keep the energy contained to our lower region.
One way to support the shifting of energy is to rest our awareness inside our heart and to open the doorway to the incredibly beautiful vulnerability that anal sex offers. This means slowing down, breathing and letting yourself be fully seen and witnessed.
The power of anal penetration is that the base does not lie, you cannot hide here; it demands your authenticity for pleasure to arise and for your body to open.
Often when the energy reaches the heart emotion arises, tears, grief, joy- we tap into the tender places of our human experience. From the heart we can draw the energy up through our awareness to the eyebrow centre where the energy will naturally want to flow to.
The third eye (located behind the eye brow) and the base have a powerful connection through the shushumna channel as the energy naturally moves up towards the higher anchor point of the third eye centre.
The activation of the third eye point awakens the mystical realms and one may experience transcendental states of consciousness beyond space and time. Anal penetration is thus a major pathway to awakening states of ONEness and surpassing the illusion of separation between self and spirit.
Anal Lovemaking Ritual
Create a sacred intentional space, light candles and put on some soft music. The most powerful anal lovemaking opens through trust, this is the magical ingredient, both people feeling relaxed and safe. You might want to share fears or vulnerabilities beforehand to support this trust.
Take time to relax the body fully before any penetration. The anus has the capacity to open on its own if given time. We can override this natural ability to open through hyper-arousal from the collective fear/shame/desire that can generate a sense of ‘hotness’ and a reliance of lubrication which allows quick entry.
Enter penetration with consciousness, hover on the outside of the anus and breathe, let the bodies connect before entering.
Move slowly to begin- if you are the giver put all your attention inside your cock/ dildo.
If you are receiving it can be beautiful to bring your awareness to the heart, placing your hands over your heart centre and breathing here.
Stay deeply connected through eye contact, words of love and deep breaths.
Imagine that with every thrust golden light is building in the base.
As a giver see, feel and send that light through the tip of the cock/dildo up to the heart and eyebrow centre.
As a receiver use your breath and inner vision to imagine the energy rising from the base to the eyebrow centre. As the energy first moves through the heart tuning into your feelings is a way to support this process, opening the heart allows the upward flow.
The most important aspect of this practice is to stay authentic, if emotions arise to allow them, stay connected together and to trust the energies inside the body. Your bodies know what to do.